Monday, July 18, 2011

Simplify, Simplify, Simplify - # 7

Remember this?

And this?

Yes, that sweet peaceful feeling that I'm working towards throughout this year in order to simplify my life and the daily life of my family as well.  It is month number 7 of this journey and I think it is time to regroup a little.  I knew that the summer would be hard on my plans - I tend to do a lot of nothing during the heat of the summer :-)  I've been thinking of what I needed to put into action this month but the more I thought about it the more that thought of "regroup" kept popping back into my brain.  So instead of picking something new - I'm going to to do just that, regroup, and list the outstanding projects and what my plans on for each of them in order to get them accomplished.  Because this isn't even going up until the middle of July - I also plan on working towards these regrouping goals in August in order to hopefully get alot accomplished!

Simplify # 1- I accomplished everything on this list already so there is nothing to add :-)

Simplify # 2
Organizing Books, Games, DVD's and CD's
1. Devise a storage system in the truck for the kids DVD's - I just need to find the perfect basket for this - I haven't found anything at home so I just need to start searching places when we are out and about.
2. Hang up Gutter Shelves in the boys rooms for books - I have the gutters; I just have to pick up some spray paint to paint them the color I want.  Once the painting is done, we'll hang them up and fill them with books! 

The Bathroom 
1. Do all touch up painting - I have had the paint for months, it is just a matter of doing this and it will be done.
2. Finishing Touches: Put on a new door knob, the strip to finish the floors, put up a couple pieces of trim, add stripping around the top of the shower, clean off the hinges. 

The Kitchen
I'm going to alter the original list and only list the first few things we want done.  I will get back to the full list but this needs to come down in chunks first I think!
1. Finish cabinets - hang the cabinets, fill all gaps and cracks, do all touch up painting.
2. Paint the trim that needs to be finished.
3. Prime and paint the walls.
So . .once we get all of that completed, we'll move on to the next few projects.

Simplify # 3
Vacation Planning
1. Create a binder of vacation ideas, fliers, packing lists ect
2. Write a master packing list

Gift Wrapping Center
1. Make sure I have all supplies - need to get tape, pens, etc so it is all in one spot.

Tot Time Storage
1. Hang display shelves on the wall to display the boys work.
2. Do touch up painting in the dining room (where the display will be)
3. Create artwork binder for each of the kids
On a side note - I am working on some basic preschool plans for the fall which will also play into this Tot Time Storage.

Simplify # 4
The Outside
The main focus of # 4 was working on the outside but we had to put that on hold due to job change.  We are still hoping to get a few things done before fall but that is not set in stone.  I'm not going to list anything specific at this time as this whole project might have to wait until spring.

Simplify #5
Everything in its place
1. The Basement - I have to clean the basement, again, and organize, again.  I want to go back through everything again (see the key word ha!) and clean out more stuff. 
2. Craft/Scrapbooking stuff - I'm slowly getting this organized but it is still a work in progress.
3. The Stairs - need to make that step basket, and set up a system for keeping the basement clean - instead of just dumping stuff until I can get to it. 

Simplify #6
This was the one that was really a discipline and I can say that I have been working on keeping my house "ready for anyone".  Again, summers are hard - we are outside a lot, it is hot, and we often are just ready to crash  . . .things get let go until fall and that's ok :-)

So, that is where I stand on these right now - I'm really hoping that I can get a vast majority of these marked off by the end of August so I can tackle a few last things before year end. 

On a side note - this week is looking to be one of the hottest and longest heat wave's this area has had in almost 25 years (since 1988!) so, needless to say, nothing is getting done.  I can't paint due to the heat and humidity and I'm not about to do any work - not when I sweat just sitting down HA! Hopefully this will break next week so that I can start August being able to get some work done!

Media Monday - Week 2

Welcome to week 2 of Media Monday sponsored by Women Living Well. To read about week 1, just click HERE.

This weeks topic is - 5 Ways Media Could be Affecting your marriage.  To read Courtney's full post just click the link above to Women Living Well and it should take you directly to her post.  What I'm going to do is take her 5 topics and reflect on those areas in my marriage.

1) Time - Without a doubt, media items can eat away your time and that was last weeks topic.  It was interesting because this past week/weekend I spent less time on my computer, facebook, blogs, etc than I have in quite awhile and, guess what?  I didn't die ;-)  To read more on this topic click the "here" above to read last weeks post.

2) Beware of Inappropriate Relationships on-line - yes, there are people that struggle with this area but this is also nothing new.  There are several people that I attended church with over 10 years ago who met someone through an on-line resource and ended up leaving their familes for a "better life".  Personally, the ultimate safety tool is to make sure your spouse has full access to every media outlet you use - my husband knows all of my passwords and goes onto my facebook site and/or blog often.  I actually set up his facebook account for him so I know all of his stuff and usually read his messages for him since he seldom goes on it anyway :-)  Courtney's take is to have no male friends on facebook - I haven't felt the need to do so.  I have so many college friends that it has been great to reconnect with - I love it!  With that said - most of the time, I'm also friends with their wife or, many people have one account for both people:-)  The other thing, be cautious with what you post - don't post anything you don't want someone to read, talk about when they see you, or that someone can read into (which is the hardest part!)  I post about the weather a lot :-)

3) Disrespectful Talk about Husband's on-line - Here's my point of view.  I don't do it :-)  I don't need to do it because my husband is wonderful.  Seriously.  Why would you even want to do that to your husband - how would you feel if he did that to you?  So, when you are upset with your spouse, talk to only the two individuals that can resolve it - your spouse, and God - pray about it alot!

4) The introduction of P*orn compared to 10 years ago - Like Courtney, this is not a topic I have had to deal with - she gives a link if you are looking for some help.  Again, make sure that you and your spouse have no secrets online - keep the computer(s) in an open area.

5) Looking at others live and growing discontent - This is so true of facebook and blogs . Isn't it amazing how perfect every one's lives look like when you read posts and status updates? It is so easy to grow discontent when you see someone else's vacation photos, photos of new clothes, furniture, cars or even their house.  Those feelings can cause discontent feelings with your spouse - maybe you feel that someone else has it better than you do.  Those feelings can really cause a rift in your marriage relationship!  I personally know people who have discontinued the use of Facebook due to these very reasons or because they have been hurt by what people have said online.  I will admit that sometimes I'm amazed at what people post and how they use a status as a way to get back at someone or to make a point.  I have not had any problem with this but I know people who have and being bullied is never fun, no matter how old you are :-)  If you find you are discontent, take time to talk to your spouse about it, ask them to help you.  Maybe you just need a day away or a  date night.  The biggest thing that I have learned is that the grass is not greener :-)  As I look at a friends pictures of a new house, I have to remind myself of past conversations of unhappiness that they struggle with or as I see or hear discussion about the latest trip or shopping experience, I also remember the complaints about a spouse who doesn't really care.  It isn't an easy lesson to learn but I work on not comparing my spouse, my children, myself or my "life" to what others have - because mine is so much better :-)

I have to admit - reading the above post it doesn't talk a lot about marriage specifically but if you keep those five areas in focus and keep them in the right priority - your marriage won't suffer; it will get stronger. 

Thanks for reading :-)