Wednesday, August 15, 2012
Several months ago, as I was driving home from a Scrapbooking crop, I heard this song by Point of Grace. It's actually a song I've heard before but had never really listened to the words. This time though, the song really hit my heart. The problem was that the next day I could not remember one single thing about the song to actually find it again! I hadn't forgotten why it impacted me but I really wanted to hear the song and be able to share it. I happened to hear it again on Friday night - I was so excited!!
There is a line in the song that says " And go see your folks more than just on the holidays" . . it made me realize that I don't honor my parents well because I don't take time to go see them. My husband and I talked about this when I explained to him about this song and he agrees with me totally. Before we got busy with life and then had kids, we used to go to my parents a lot - sometimes 2-3 weekends a month. We really enjoyed our time there and actually miss those visits. Now, it seems, the times we see them is on holidays or when I ask them to come over to babysit for me - so my husband and I aren't really even here. I think, when you have parents who are as wonderful and supportive as mine are, that it becomes very easy to take advantage of them instead of enjoying them. I've reach the realization recently that my parents will not live forever - they are still young but not as young as they used to be :-) With all of this said, we are making some changes. We knew we had to get through the month of August because, well, my parents are taking a much deserved vacation, but starting in September we plan to take time out of our schedule and spend time visiting my parents at their home. (My parents read this blog and you can bet they are jumping for joy!!) Sometimes it may just be the boys and I heading over on a Friday afternoon and returning on Saturday evening; other times it will be all of us leaving on either a Friday or Saturday afternoon, depending on Darryl's schedule, to stay the rest of the weekend. I have a time frame in mind but I won't actually state that because some months, well, weekends are just busy, but we plan to do it as frequently as we are able to.
Why do I feel this is important? When I think about how much my parents have done for not only myself but also my brothers and their families, I realized that instead of honoring my parents and taking time the time to spend with them, I tend to take advantage of their willingness to do so much for me. Don't get me wrong, I know that my parents enjoy the things they are able to do but they would also enjoy just some family time too. I think that as adults, with busy lives and families, it is easy to push our parents aside - yet they are the reason, so often, that we are who we are and they deserve to be honored and respected. I have the privilege of only living about an hour and half from them so there is no reason that we shouldn't be able to all see each other once every 4-6 weeks. A Hundred years from now when they are gone (;-) ) I don't want to have a regret that I should have spent more time with them when I could have easily done so.
What about you? Did you listen to that song and realize that you need to change How you Live? Do you need to "Turn up the Music" and make some memories? Whether it be with your parents, your siblings or your own children - don't let life pass you by.